Being Humans Together

God knows you fully, and God loves you completely. Consider what it would be like to be in the presence of God. You would feel known, understood and seen. You’d feel loved. You would have a profound desire to be with Him. God’s love for you is not simply acceptance. It is love for you as you are, but also as you may be, hopefully as you are going to become through the experiences and growth that you will have through life. Some, perhaps even much of that growth will be the result of hard work, discomfort, and even pain and suffering.

Take a moment to consider this. You ARE in the presence of God.

How can we know God and embody God? Seek out the wisest, kindest, most joyful people and communities you can. Learn from them. Follow them. 

Then seek to embody your highest goals and mission in the world, now, today.

Love God with all of our heart, mind, and strength.

Love our neighbor as we love ourselves.

Love one another as God loves us.

The true mystery that each of us must comprehend and act on now is to understand how to apply or embody or act out the love of God and love for God in our lives today. There isn’t just one way to do that. There are so many many ways to grow, to increase in knowledge, goodness, kindness, strength, and love. What do you feel you are called to be and do? What is your journey? And do you have a sense of where it ultimately leads?

Mother Theresa of Kolkata provides us a powerful example of pursuing her divine mission, in the face of significant opposition. But also how she struggled with her own emotional and spiritual challenges of feeling profound darkness and separation from God.

We must each seek to know God and know God’s will for us. The most efficient way to do this is to learn from other good, wise, dedicated people, communities, churches, and institutions. But along the way we must seek our own personal paths and callings, and then work, strive and struggle to embody God’s knowledge, wisdom, love, and mission with our bodies in our daily lives. As we do so, we hopefully draw close to God and experience joyful blessings. But we will also experience doubts, challenges, fears, trials, sorrows, and losses. Through it all the best we can do is to consistently try to perfect our aim at our highest ideals and goals, to try to work God’s will in our lives, bless the people we love, and expand the circles of people we bless and love.

For thousands of years cultures, societies and communities have developed many ways to know god-- Animism or spirits in nature, including ancestors, Polytheism in its multiplicity of expressions, Devotion to a single personal god, with mystical spiritual experience, Monotheism or the worship of ultimate One True God, and transcendent eternal spiritual reality beyond God as a being.

In this episode we focus on Monotheism, the transcendent eternal spiritual reality, agnosticism and atheism. Then we explore ways that religions simultaneously embrace a wide variety of paths to knowing and following God.

Cultures and societies have approached God in many ways. On Being Humans Together we emphasize that knowing God is personal, relational, and present. What matters most is that you know God and strive to embody your highest ideals today.

In part 1 of this topic we explore Animism, or spirits in nature, the wide variety of Polytheism, and devotional worship of one God.

“Know yourself” was inscribed in Greek ‘gnothi seauton’ on the temple of Apollo at Delphi. Knowing yourself has been a fundamental quest for every human being for thousands of years.

Who am I? Who are you? What does it mean to know yourself?

These are not simple questions. And there are many answers.

Know yourself. Know your heart, mind, will, limitations, and strengths. Know your people and listen to them when they tell you about your mistakes and your strengths. Try to see those things more clearly, to grow, and to improve on all of it. Strengthen your relationships because they are also who you are. You are a complex collection of we's. 

When we identify consistent challenges, let’s try to alter our own perspectives. Strive to open our eyes to see our blindspots. Seeing more and seeing better is such a profound victory. And then let’s press forward positively and cooperatively to problem solve our challenges with our team of people. In so many cases, life is its own reward. Our consistent patterns of seeing, thinking and acting shape our world. If we can proactively and positively improve our lenses, perspectives, thought processes, actions and relations, we will plant better seeds and harvest better rewards. 

I believe these are the fundamental benefits of knowing ourselves. Remember, this is not about navel gazing, about sitting alone in a cave to know who we are. We are not alone. We do this together. In part two we will consider how we can better know ourselves by knowing God. 

“Leave me alone!” This is the curse we cast on ourselves.

Solitary confinement is the greatest punishment we enforce in many of our societies. We did away with torture and most capital punishment. So now we make people sit alone in cages.

But guess what? Many, many of us sit alone in well appointed cages of our own making and our own choosing. We buy our isolation in 4000 square foot homes, with smart phones and social media, and an increasingly caustic civil society where people resist, riot, and shout no at each other all day long. 

Wealth, institutions, public schools, corporations, and the pursuit of success all contribute to increased isolation and loneliness in our culture and society.

We can escape isolation by valuing relationships and sharing time, hospitality, and meaningful experiences together.

We can mean more than one thing when we say yes, or when we say no.

There are situations, actions, and people for whom we feel, say and perform solid yeses — strong and spontaneous affirmation. Parents experience solid yes for their children. We feel and do solid yes for our highest ideals. Love is solid yes. Loyalty or fidelity is solid yes. Sacrifice and nurture are solid yes. There are other principles that you feel deeply, passionately about. Our passionate goals and dreams are solid yeses.

What does “soft yes” mean? There are many other things that we feel we should or ought to affirm, that we think are good things to do, that we accept as good principles. But something holds us back. We don’t move directly from saying yes to doing yes. Often times the bar is work. It takes energy and effort to do work. We feel that we should clean up, do difficult jobs, exercise more, diet, help someone who is struggling. But messes, labor, exercise, and service take time and energy. And time and energy are limited resources. So we say yes, but we often mean yes tomorrow, yes but later, or yes in principle, or maybe yes, rather than yes now I will do it. These soft yeses are second choice priorities.

Next let’s consider negation. There are situations, actions, ideas, and even people we feel strongly we do not want to do or be or be with; we ought not to do them or embody them; we instinctively and strong turn away from them; we have experienced the pain of getting burned, humiliated, or hurt, and we do not want to repeat that experience. This is solid no. 

Next, what does “soft no” mean? There are many examples of things we do not really want to do, or think we should not do, that we say no to, but we later feel obliged to do, or we try them out of curiosity, or we change our minds, or we can’t escape the temptation to do. There are two broad categories of soft nos. 

First, Things we probably ought to do that are hard that we say no to because we don’t want to do them. These are the difficult soft nos. And

Second, Things that we probably should not do because they are frivolous or slightly unhealthy or somewhat harmful if done too often. We say no to these things because we recognize that they aren’t great, or because we have been taught to say no by parents or authorities. But these things have a pull on us. We are curious. They may feel good, or help us let go of stress. They may be pleasurable. But if done habitually they are recognizably harmful or risky. These are the tempting soft nos.

We and those we have relationships with move between solid yes, soft yes, soft no, and solid no. We definitely move between yes sometime or maybe yes to yes now. Managing and negotiating the complex, sometimes contradictory, movements between affirmation and negation is the substance of close relationships.

Resonating together with our people and relationships

How do we connect, resonate together, and form relational bonds?

How do we improve our relationships to bring more meaningful connections, closeness, or intimacy?

Human Beings hunger for connection, understanding, natural resonance, and relationship building. Many common human communications invite connection, shared experience, understanding, and shared resonance:
Do you see what I see?
Do you know what I know?
Do you agree?
Do you understand?
Do you understand me?
Do you hear me?
Will you do this with me?
Can you help me with this?
Do you like this too?
Do you see me? recognize me? know me?
Let’s do this together.
Let’s play. Let’s go.
Let’s be a team… [A thousand invitations that begin with "Let's..."]
Do you feel the same?
Do you believe me?
Do you believe in this too?
Do you like me?
Do you love me too?

When we answer "Yes" and act on that affirmation, we build relationships. The accumulation of shared mutual experiences and affirmation builds closeness and relational bonds and eventually various forms of intimacy. We enjoy resonance and harmony.

Know who your people are. I recognize how challenging relationships are for all of us. Understand how your relationships fit into your circles of relations, including intimate relations, core family and friends, extended family and friends, community members, and acquaintances and contacts. Consider the kinds of experiences you share together. 

Beware common mistakes we make in misunderstanding and undervaluing relationships.

Finally, we consider how to recognize the limits of contextual relationships are and how to bring special relationships into our homes and core circles where they can last.